It sucks when someone you have feelings for doesn’t share those feelings; it happens to women all the time, too. We hear “I just want to be friends” and “you’re like one of the guys” and “you’re like a sister to me” just as often. But you’ll never hear a woman complain that guys just don’t appreciate a Nice Girl because we’re taught it’s our own fucking fault when we’re rejected—we aren’t pretty enough or thin enough or sexy enough, we weren’t sexual enough or were too sexual, we put out too much or too little or too soon or not soon enough, we didn’t wear our hair the right way or our skirt the right length, we’re “too tomboyish” or “too butch” or “too feminine”, or we’re “not their type”, or we’re otherwise not good enough in various ways to entice the man to grace us with his affection.
But when we’re not interested in someone, we’re vilified. We’re the bitch that lead them on, the bitch who let them buy us dinner but didn’t want to date them, the bitch who doesn’t appreciate a nice guy, the bitch they were nice to and then got nothing in return from.
And, frankly, fuck those people. Showing interest in me, being friendly with me, getting close to me, or eating a meal with me (even if they paid for it) doesn’t obligate me to open my heart or my legs. And anyone who doesn’t appreciate my friendship sure as hell doesn’t deserve my love or my pussy.
"We often talk about video game violence and how it affects people who play violent video games," Bailenson said. "I think it’s equally important to think about sexualization." [x]
When we don a virtual reality avatar, our real-life behavior can change, too. Like, for example, when people embody a tall avatar, they have a tendency to act more confidently. It’s called the Proteus Effect. And according to a study from Stanford University’s Virtual Human Interaction Lab, it’s the reason overly sexualized portrayals of women in video games are terrible. According to this research, women who embody sexualized avatars are more likely to objectify themselves, and more likely to say that rape is the victim’s fault. (Always worth noting: It’s not.)
A total of 86 women participated in the study, donning a head-mounted display that placed them in a virtual environment where they could look in the mirror and see their avatar self, which moved as they moved in real life, dressed either in a sexy outfit or wearing jeans and a jacket. In some conditions, the avatar’s face resembled the woman playing her, based on a photograph acquired earlier in the study. The participants had a get-to-know-you conversation with another person’s male avatar during the scenario, which allowed the researchers to assess how much they were objectifying themselves. While wearing the sexy, short-skirted avatar, women talked more about their bodies, hair and dress than the women who wore pretty everyday clothing in the scenario.
The researchers write “the results indicate that women who wear sexualized avatars may internalize the features of their avatars and start perceiving themselves in a sexually objectified manner.” Gross. But OK, so women who embodied an avatar who was wearing outlandish clothing talked about their clothing. Maybe not that big of a deal?
Nope, there’s more to it. Women who were using the sexy avatars were significantly more accepting of rape myths, according to a post-experiment questionnaire, than the women in the “normal” condition. Rape myths include attitudes that suggest women do something to “deserve” rape, like dressing in a certain way or drinking or being promiscuous. The condition that garnered the most acceptance of rape myths? The one where the woman’s sexy avatar had her own face on it. Augh.
How the researchers explain the phenomenon:Possibly, the sexualized self might have triggered a form of self-defense; that is, participants might have attributed blame to rape victims because they did not want to imagine themselves in a similar situation. Lonsway and Fitzgerald (1994) argued that women might perpetuate rape myths to justify why victims were raped and thus ‘reaffirm an individual’s false sense of security that they are somehow immune to rape.’ Another possibility is that seeing the suggestively dressed self might have triggered memories of being told by a parent or authority figure that dressing in such a manner was ‘asking for it,’ resulting in a sense of blame.
These avatars actually seem pretty tame, too. Look at the female characters in Mortal Kombat! Basically entirely boobs and bathing suits. Or the latest Grand Theft Auto, where you can’t actually play as a woman, but you can ogle at plenty of strippers.
On the bright side, if virtual avatars can affect us this deeply, maybe they could be used for the powers of good, too. Positive body-image video games, anyone?
In the 19th century, recognizing not only the discomfort but also the health and safety hazards of wearing the weighty skirts that swept up street trash, impeded walking (especially down stairs) and posed fire hazards, and fueled by the freer-thinking spirit of the Enlightenment, some liberal folk began calling for more “rational dress.” In 1851, Amelia Bloomer debuted her signature shocking ensemble of loose-fitting ankle-length trousers — essentially bifurcated petticoats — underneath a shorter dress. Later in 1881, the Rational Dress Society was established in London, and it advocated women being required to wear no more than 7 pounds (3 kilograms) of underwear, which at the time would have been a major load off. But even with the popularization of the bicycle and younger women adopting bloomers as riding outfits, it would still be a long while before pants would become an all-season, any-occasion women’s wardrobe staple…
1. At just 4 days after fertilization… What? That zygote doesn’t look human? Well, scientifically, it is! It’s growing, so it must be alive. It has human parents, so it must be human. In fact, since fertilization, that zygote has possessed a predetermined sex (it’s a girl!) and her own unique set of human DNA. Her DNA will guide her body’s development over the next nine months (and its entire lifetime!). Remember, don’t judge or discriminate against other human beings just because they don’t look like us!
2. At just 5-6 weeks of gestation…Despite being only a quarter of an inch long, her nose, mouth, and ears are already taking shape! Her heart is beating about 100 times a minute (almost twice as fast as yours) and blood is beginning to circulate through her body. Brain waves have been detectable for at least 2-3 weeks already!
3. At just 7 weeks gestation…Most of that growth is concentrated in the head as new brain cells are generated at the rate of 100 per minute. Your baby’s mouth and tongue are forming as arm and leg buds sprout, and those little kidneys are getting ready to do their job (pee production and excretion).
4. At about 10 weeks…All of her major body functions are up and running: the kidneys, intestines, brain, and liver are all working. Her tiny arms and legs can already start to flex. Most abortions in the United States take place around this time. If she’s lucky, her mom will love her enough to let her live.
5. At 12 weeks…Her muscles are beginning to bulk up, so she’s busily stretching and kicking. If you put your hand on your tummy, she’ll likely wiggle in response because her reflexes are starting to develop, although you won’t feel it yet.
6. At 16 weeks gestation…This week, the baby is going through a growth spurt. Soon she’ll be growing locks of hair on her head and she’s already started growing toenails. Every day, her heart pumps about 25 quarts of blood through her body.
7. Sucking her thumb at about 18-20 weeks gestation…Right about now, she has her own unique set of fingerprints.
8. Around 6-7 months gestation…The baby can now respond to external sounds by moving and increasing the pulse. A mother may notice jerking motions if the baby hiccups!
9. At around 8 months gestation…This baby can hear and is beginning to recognize her mother’s voice. Her skin is pink and she already is beginning to get that cute, chunky appearance that newborns have. That extra fat is very important, because it allows the baby to regulate her temperature after birth.
We’re all just grown up embryos…
"If she’s lucky, her mom will love her enough to let her live."
What kind of distorted, delusional, shitty message is this sending out?
At 5-6 weeks of gestation a mother is able to hear the fetus’ heartbeat, but if that fetus was to be born the moment the heartbeat is heard it would not survive. It’s not a viable organism.
And what we know in terms of the brain and the nervous system in a fetus is that the part of the brain that perceives pain is not connected to the part of the body that receives pain signals until about 26 weeks from the last menstrual period, which is about 24 weeks from conception. Because the neural structures necessary to feel pain have not yet developed, any observable responses to stimuli at this gestational stage - like the fetal “flinching” during an amniocentesis - are reflexive, not experiential. Which is to say, the fetus at 20 weeks can’t actually feel anything at all.
You can have an opinion about that, but it doesn’t change the facts.
If tomorrow, women woke up and decided they really liked their bodies, just think how many industries would go out of business.
A competition on Facebook by a male grooming brand to send a Malaysian to a space camp in Florida, USA to train to be an astronaut turned ugly when the only female finalist was “trolled”, drawing sexist comments from netizens.
Post-graduate student Roshini Muniam, who is one of the top five finalists of Axe deodorant’s Apollo Space Race competition, was discriminated against online due to her gender.
A comment posted by Syed Wazien on Roshini’s profile, featured in Axe’s Facebook page, expressed surprise over a woman’s desire to go to space.
“What – a woman?! No way, hose!!!” he said.
Geeky Fredward wrote that Roshini should not compete and must make way for her male counterparts to win the competition.
“Banyak lagi competition untuk female only kat luar tu lady.. (there are many other competitions for females out there, lady) don’t ruin what’s intended or most considered to be men only chance?”
Another commentator, Dimitriy Mirovsky, was more insulting, saying that women should be prohibited from the competition as they menstruate.
“pompuan REJEK…… lelaki sahaje….. kang tampon ang pecah kat langit tu abis rosak space craft tu….. kah kah kah……” (Women should be rejected… it is only for males… if your tampon burst while you are in space, the entire spacecraft will be spoilt… kah kah
This is reminiscent of an incident in the Malaysian parliament in 2007 when controversial Barisan Nasional MP Datuk Bung Mokhtar Radin, in a heated exchange in the Dewan Rakyat with opposition MPs over a leaky roof in Parliament House, said: “Mana ada bocor? Batu Gajah pun bocor tiap-tiap bulan juga. (Where is the leak? The Batu Gajah MP also leaks every month.)”.
Batu Gajah MP Fong Po Kuan and other women MPs were outraged by his comments and he was eventually forced to apologise.
Plucky Roshini, 27, has hit back at the trolls.
“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me. I am all out to win this competition because I want to inspire ordinary people to have extraordinary dreams & goals,” she posted on the page.
The contestants underwent a series of challenges which tested their mental strength and endurance. The pictures of the top five were posted online. Visitors to the page then could vote for their choice.
Some netizens have also come out in her defence, with Rajakumari Rajagopal pointing out that the competition was open to all Malaysians and that she qualified on merit.
“She was the only Malaysian woman who had made her way to the semi-finals and now to the finals. She needs your help and everyone’s help to make her dream come true. Why can’t she have a dream? Why can’t she be given an equal right to participate? Why can’t she be the final person to represent Malaysia. Malaysia Boleh! 1 Malaysia! Hidup Malaysia!”
Rafizal Rahman said Roshini should not be praised and not criticised, pointing out there was already a lot of female astronauts in the world.
The competition closes next Tuesday and the winner will be announced on September 24.
The winner will represent Malaysia in Florida and compete against other nations’ candidates for an opportunity to go to space.
Only 22 people will be selected for the Florida experience.
She’s losing by 20k votes. Let’s fix this.
Fetal pain is a lie: How phony science took over the abortion debate
New laws banning abortion after 20 weeks are based on pseudoscience — and real research proves it conclusively
Since Nebraska first jump-started the trend back in 2010, close to a dozen state legislatures across the country have passed laws banning abortion at 20 weeks. Most of these restrictions are given grave-sounding titles like the “Pain-Capable Unborn Child Protection Act,” or some near-identical riff on the words “fetal,” “pain” and “protection.” All of them, no matter what they’re called, rest on the stated premise that a fetus can experience pain at 20 weeks, and that this is a sufficient justification to ban all abortions after this gestational stage.
But “fetal pain” in the popular discourse is a nebulous concept, one that lawmakers like Jodie Laubenberg, Trent Franks and others haven’t much bothered to define or help ground in available medical evidence.
I would totally put my face 4 inches from her chest and scream, “I’M SO HAPPY RIGHT NOW!” And I’d make a point never to take my eyes off her boobs until she got so uncomfortable and creeped out that she decided to leave, go back home, sit on her bed in the dark, and think about how completely stupid she was to write “STILL NOT ASKING FOR IT” while asking for it.
This woman’s a disgrace.
But she’s not asking for it. This is a human body, nothing more, nothing less. It’s not being sexualized, in fact, she’s covered her nipples too. I’m sorry, h-plus, that you feel that your body and the body of other women should be considered a disgrace. Do you feel uncomfortable when looking at pictures in the doctor’s office of a woman’s naked body? And do you, leftybegone, get uncontrollably horny at the same sight? Control your python (or garden snake), man, you’re not 12. Have some maturity over the matter. If you did that to that woman, leftybegone, you’d just be putting a bad face on us guys, making us seem like sex-crazed, immature horndogs. Maybe you are one, but I’m tired people making that assumption of us as a gender. It’s disgraceful. She wouldn’t think it was stupid of her to do that if you did. You’d just make her movement more powerful.
Rape (noun):the crime of forcing another person to submit to sex acts, especially sexual intercourse.
Men aren’t primal fucking animals. They’re humans that are completely capable of resisting their urges. I bet you (leftybegone) are a kid with some serious hormones since you, obviously, can’t control yourself.
"She was asking for it". Really? Can you really blame an individual for someone else’s lack of control? The mere fact that a woman is more likely to be assaulted if she wears certain types of clothing does not make it right. She could walk around naked and that still doesn’t excuse rape. The solution to the problem is not for women to “dress less slutty” but for men to realize that a woman’s choice of dress is not an open invitation to sexual assault.
"There’s life on another planet if we can find single-celled organisms." "Oh, a fetus? Just a clump of cells. Means nothing."
Bacteria is viable, a fetus with a heartbeat does not necessarily mean it is viable.
Generally, abortion is legal within a “viability time limit” (here in the U.S. Roe v. Wade states anytime in the 9 months, where after 24 weeks abortion is usually performed for health reasons). Up to that 24 weeks a fetus does not have a high survival rate. Premie babies is what we call them, and although there are some miracle instances where the baby survives and thrives, there is still a large amount of premie deaths.
As early as 5 weeks a mother is able to faintly hear the fetus’ heartbeat. 5 WEEKS. If that fetus was to be born the moment the heartbeat is heard it would not survive. That’s not life, that’s not a viable organism. It’s the size of rice, has no distinguishable traits, and doesn’t have unique fingerprints. As far as I’m concerned that’s not life. Life is viable. Life can survive, grow, and thrive.
That is what separates bacteria on Mars and a heartbeat on Earth.
And if you want to get real nit-picky; this question is stupid because by that same logic, those who believe bacteria on Mars is no different than a heartbeat on Earth and are anti-abortion should never again take antibiotics. Or else they’re just a bunch of murderers. (via anndruyan)
Oh and I’m still waiting for an answer about this.
"Women were illiterate before feminism".
How the fuck did they teach Sunday school, then?
Someone really thinks this? People even? How-
Ha. I never said that.
You know, for someone who’s always saying “the left twist my words” you sure don’t know how to read.
I wrote “you can hate feminism all you want, but without feminism you probably wouldn’t even know how to write that, less alone vote”, which is not the same.
Throughout history, american women have had less access to education than their male counterparts. In the early years of american history women were discouraged from pursuing higher education because it was culturally considered unnatural for a woman to be educated. It was more appropiate to learn domestic skills in order to be a good housewife.
Coinciding with the beginnings of the first wave of feminism in the 19th century came the attempt by women to gain equal rights to education in the United States. Women’s rights organizations focused on adjusting and increasing women’s place in the public arena by arguing that the only fundamental differences between women and men were socially created ones, and thus women should be offered the same extensive and practical education that was offered to men. After long battles against gender oppression women finally obtained the right to be educated through several government acts/conventions, the opening of facilities willing to educate them, and the opportunity to continue into higher education.
In 1848 the Seneca Falls Convention was held in New York to gain support for education and suffrage (and was the first women’s rights convention), but it had little immediate impact because at that time women were still considered the property of men rather than individuals in society. This convention is significant because it created a foundation for efforts toward equal education for women, even though it was not actually achieved until much later. It was not until the 20th century that the need to educate women for careers and professions was recognized.
But of course you’re going to focus on that and ignore the rest of my response, as usual.
If you are an anti-feminist woman and you vote - you didn’t build that.
If you are an anti-feminist woman and you enjoy the rights of contract and property law - you didn’t build that.
If you are an anti-feminist woman who practices safe, legal family planning - you didn’t build that.
If you are an anti-feminist woman who wants to or needs to work ‘outside the home’ - you didn’t build that.
If you are an anti-feminist woman who works and is paid the same as the man in the next cubicle - you didn’t build that.
If you are an anti-feminist woman but sadly divorced yet benefitting from family law reforms (allowing you to have custody of your children, for example) - you didn’t build that.
If you are an anti-feminist woman who has achieved higher education - you didn’t build that.
If you are an anti-feminist woman in a profession formerly seen as ‘male’ - you didn’t build that.
If you are an anti-feminist woman with recourse to sexual harassment/discrimination remedies in the workplace - you didn’t build that.
If you are an anti-feminist woman who needs daycare for her children - you didn’t build that.
If you are an anti-feminist woman who took maternity leave to have those children - you didn’t build that.
Anti-feminist women love to shriek ‘feminists don’t speak for me!’
No. We don’t. But the accomplishments of the feminist movement - and ongoing struggles - benefit ALL of you.
Let me literally repeat myself.
One day, people will realize that women’s suffrage had nothing to do with “feminism”, but it was a federalist, state-wide movement in the western frontier because women were able to protect their families (using guns) and own property the same way men could, equally. Men viewed women as equals, because they acted as equals, instead of whining to the government for special protection and “free” stuff.
Women’s suffrage had literally nothing to do with “feminism”, the same movement which is now all about “free” abortion and “free” birth control.
The history of the modern western feminist movements is divided into three “waves”. Each is described as dealing with different aspects of the same feminist issues. The first wave refers to the movement of the 19th through early 20th centuries, which dealt mainly with suffrage, working conditions and educational rights for women and girls. The second wave (1960s-1980s) dealt with the inequality of laws, as well as cultural inequalities and the role of women in society. The third wave of feminism (late 1980s-early 2000s (decade)), is seen as both a continuation of the second wave and a response to the perceived failures.
Prominent leaders of the first wave feminist movement in the United States include Lucretia Coffin Mott, Elizabeth Cady Stanton (she wrote “We now demand our right to vote" in 1848), Lucy Stone, and Susan B. Anthony; Anthony and other activists such as Victoria Woodhull and Matilda Joslyn Gage made attempts to cast votes prior to their legal entitlement to do so, for which many of them faced charges.
The nineteenth amendment was the culmination of the women’s suffrage movement in the United States. It has nothing to do with guns.
So yeah, you can hate feminism all you want, but without feminism you probably wouldn’t even know how to write that, less alone vote.
The feminist movement has accomplished its goal of giving woman a voice. Without it you couldn’t post your ignorant opinions on the internet, dress the way you want, go to college, marry whoever you want, etc.